mom-and-daughter-talk-about-sex-on-oprah.jpg Last week Dr. Laura Berman was on the Oprah show dishing advice on how to talk to our children about sex. My children are grown, so we’re past the sex talk stage. But, my interest in children hasn’t waned with an empty nest. So I tuned in to see what tidbits I could gleam from Ms. Sex Therapist herself.

I walked away with more questions than answers after the show:

One, although I agree with being open and honest when having “the talk,” aren’t some things innate? My mother never talked to me about the “ins-and-outs” of sex, but I somehow figured out where everything goes with no problem.

Two, why would a mother introduce her daughter to sex toys at 15? There are some things that me and my mama aren’t going to talk about.

Three, what’s up with teaching our daughters about a sexual response cycle so when they’re with a boy, they won’t think those feelings are coming from him? I didn’t even know there was such a thing as a sexual response cycle, but nevertheless, am I wrong or just flat out crazy for wanting to know that if I’m with a man that he invokes the feelings that I’m feeling? And as far as that sexual-response-cycle-thing goes, I had four kids in as many years, so as you can see, I couldn’t even get the rhythm method down, and now I’m expected to track a sexual response cycle? Can’t we just go with the flow?

What the…???

Dr. Berman, I’m right there with you when it comes to talking to our kids about sex sooner than later because nowadays they can teach us more at five than we knew at 30. But, there are some things that our daughters need to explore and experience with their spouse. They can explore things together. And mama doesn’t need to know a thing about it.

And between rainbow parties, sexting, and kids French kissing as early as Kindergarten, our kids might be teaching us more than we’re teaching them. I didn’t know what phone sex was until my kids told me after seeing Girl 6. (I won’t even tell you what I thought it was.)

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